The Importance Of DETACHMENT For Success With Women

Today I’d like to talk about an important principle that’s crucial to your success with women: DETACHMENT. This mindset serves you well in 3 separate areas.

First, there’s the initial interaction during the day. Let’s say you spot an attractive woman and you walk up beside her. You’d like to get talking to her so you look for something you can use as a shared point-of-view.

You spot a commotion going on in the park. A large group of people is demonstrating while waving flags.

“I wonder what’s happening over there”, you say to her. “Do you know what’s going on?”

“Go away”, she says as she turns and walks away in a huff.

Now, at this point you can do one of three things:

1) Fruitlessly continue to pursue her, only to receive an even nastier verbal barrage.

2) Lose all your interest in being outside on such a sunny glorious day, opting to go home and cry in your Corn Flakes because a little girl was mean to you.

3) Shake it off and find another woman on the next block who wants to talk to you.

I hope you picked Number 3 because it’s the right answer. Inevitably, when you’re approaching attractive women on the street, you’re going to get shot down.

99 times out of 100 it won’t be as harsh as the rebuff I describe above. But it will still do its best to mess up your mojo… unless you become a master of DETACHMENT.

By staying detached, you keep your MOJO strong and generate the energy that keeps you going. Three more phone numbers and you’ve forgotten the rude brush-off.

Second, detachment is useful if a woman who is in your apartment isn’t ready to play. There you are, in your place, and you’re moving in for the kiss. For whatever reason, she pushes you away and firmly says no to any more advances. (When a woman gives you a firm “No”, it’s a firm no.)

Here, detachment comes in handy to help keep your self-respect intact. Most guys would end up feeling rejected or beat themselves up when this happens. But detachment from the situation keeps you on a steady course.

The third result of detachment is that it keeps you from “falling in love”. When you have several women on rotation in your life, you are much less likely to develop those overwhelming desires to “confess your love” to her.

You just won’t be thinking about her that much because you’re not “starved” for affection.

In fact, this is an almost sure-fire tactic to get women to completely fall in love with you. A man in demand triggers a storm of attraction inside a woman’s psyche.

Now, as I’ve said before, you may be looking for the “one” girl of your dreams… and that’s okay. But I still advocate DETACHMENT and seeing multiple women until you’re 100% sure… which can (and should) take a while. And why not enjoy yourself first as a single man while you have the chance?

Ironically, when you start living an abundant single lifestyle to its fullest, THAT’s when more opportunities to find the “one” will present themselves to you. You may be amazed at the array of choices you have with women once you enact this new paradigm of “playboy”.

In Day Game, my 6-CD audio series, I stress the importance of detachment. I also break down the perfect street interaction in what I call the “Gucci Example”. This is the most difficult pickup of all. I provide it as a guide because if you can master this one, every other interaction will seem easy.

Day Game is all about the initial approach. It’s 6 full hours of me giving you example after example of situations… including exactly what I said WORD-FOR-WORD. There is nothing else that even comes close to this education on the market right now.

You owe it to yourself to read more about it here.

And as always, keep an eye out for the next installment.

To The Good Life,
Paul Janka

About Paul Janka: A Manhattan based pickup artist who has slept with over 173 women, and has been featured on Dr. Phil and The Today Show–has written a hard-hitting, no holds barred manual on how to be outrageously successful with women. You can learn more about Paul on his website.


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